Soapbox Thursday #2

To Preempt or Not To Preempt

So, this week I was wondering what personality type you are, and what would you do if you found yourself in my position.

Now first of all let me say my position isn’t dire, nor is it a life and death, rather its more a damned if you do, damned if you don’t position, and now I’ll explain this long intro.

Some of you might be aware that I have been diagnosed with diabetic retinopathy, which will lead to blindness in the long run. At the moment the specialist is trying to determine whether this has been caused by bad control of my diabetes, in which case good control will reverse the symptons, or if its just because I’ve had diabetes for 40 years. In which case there is nothing they can do about it.

In May I’m due to go back so they can see if my eyes are continuing to deterioate, and if they are there’s a chance I will lose my driver’s licence.

Now we’ve explained this let me tell you my quandry. I am 52 years old, I can’t afford to retire, and I will not be able to reach my job if I don’t have a licence. There is no public transport to the location, so hubby is telling me I need to find a job closer to home.

I agree with this, but I like my job, I’m paid well for what I do, and I have the best boss ever. I have been applying for jobs closer to home, but they pay less, and theres a good chance I won’t have the flexibility or the understanding of my current boss, but I suspect that since I’m growing older I’m going to have problems obtaining another position.

So, do I preempt the medical problems and find something nearer to home now, or do I wait?

Have you been in a similar situation? How do you weigh up your options? Do you have any advice for me?

Love to hear your thoughts.

© NopeNotPam

27 thoughts on “Soapbox Thursday #2

      1. I’ll have to look into that. I did drive one of the others back and forth for six months while she was trying to get her licence, but unfortunately it would be a long way for her to go

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  1. ouch that’s a heavy ask Deb … I never changed jobs for convenience! Having a good boss, flexibility and a good wage are very rare, and 50 yo seems to be the use by age here. I’ve usually shifted closer if the commute is the issue. Praying that you don’t lose your vision or your license so young … would it be possible to rent closer or do you own your home? Could hubby not drive you? You need to look closely at all options and decide nothing until the facts are complete. Maybes are very dangerous.

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    1. We own our home, so there is no moving. Peter isn’t even awake at that time. I could get a push bike, it would be about an hour and a half each way.


  2. Keep your sugar under control is all you can do to slow it, at least. I’ve seen some reversal but found the collateral damage caused by laser surgery is pretty permanent.
    Test yourself regularly. Get to know what foods you can tolerate, what you can’t.

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    1. My control is pretty good, though Covid threw me into a loop. The specialist was implying it was just the length I’ve had diabetes which was causing the issue

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  3. Wait. You haven’t lost your licence yet, and you may not. If you do, then the choice to find a new job is made for you. No harm in keeping an eye open for opportunities though.

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  4. Is your job the kind you can do from home? I would not get a push bike especially for that length of a journey. Is there anyone you know who could give you a lift to where you work if you offered to contribute to their fuel? Good bosses are hard to find so he may have a solution for the worse case scenario so that you can continue to work for him.
    I have type 2 diabetes controlled by diet and was diagnosed in October 2011. My optician could see no diabetes in my eyes yesterday so I must be doing something right. If yours is down to bad diet control and can be reversed, you can get help and advice on that from your doctor. Good luck!

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    1. I couldn’t even get a lift in for one day last year, so I doubt that would happen, and I sit at reception, so from home wouldn’t work. My boss is pretty innovative though, so if it does come to that he might think of something, but I’m doubting it’s a blood sugar control issue. My hB1aC is always at 7, which is good

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  5. Deb its two fold: current job pays great and you are happy vs possible new job closer to home less pay and possible bad work environment so weighing physical health vs mental health short term solution or long term solution
    If it were me I would stay making more ( put toward savings for future) where I am happy and respected and try to manage the diabetes better and see if the eyesight deteriorates ( hopefully not)

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