Soapbox Thursday #1

Hi All,

So over the break I had a bit of a think about my blog, and it struck me that my content has altered a lot from when I started five years ago.

Now this is ok, things do evolve, but one of the changes which I didn’t notice was was that I don’t write anything about me anymore.

I’ve decided that this is one thing I must change, for I’m bottling things up, and this isn’t making me happy.

So Soapbox Thursday has been born.

I’m going to chat about something which has been playing on my mind and if you have any advice, an opinion, or you’d like to suggest another topic, feel free to comment or post on your blog.

Anyway, here’s the first topic:

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or OCD

Do I have OCD? Well I’m not official diagnosed, though my father is, but I think I display a lot of the traits associated with it.

I get up at 4am to do my walk, I have a list of 10 items I must complete each day no matter what, I have to have everything setup the night before or I’ll have a mini meltdown in the morning when I’m trying to squeeze too much into the day.

I don’t socialize, I don’t like crowds, I don’t like change.

Is all this OCD? I don’t know, but it does impact on my life quite drastically. Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind these traits, but when someone suggests something which will impact on my timetable, I just can’t cope. This has been a major sticking point between me and hubby, its even caused conflict at work when I just refuse to change what I’m doing.

I’ve tried to adjust my compulsions on multiple occasions, and I do usually have limited success, but then I just head back down the path, and I’m finding as I get older, that its getting worse.

So, here’s what I’m asking this week:

Did you ever have a set routine? If so, how did you cope when it was changed? Do you have any tactics which might helped you be more flexible and cope better?

ยฉ NopeNotPam

26 thoughts on “Soapbox Thursday #1

  1. I too want to follow my routine everyday. But when life intervenes, I try to bend my routine and still try to finish my daily list. I totally understand your point. I think you can put a few relaxing/ free times in your daily list and gradually give yourself some time to do things off your list.

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  2. Great idea Deb to add the personal, bottling things up is super unhealthy!

    OCD is actually super rigid, so you do have some traits but you did come out to meet me ๐Ÿ™‚

    Frankly until I started doing retreat some decades ago I had very little routine in my life … I always shared a bedroom, 6-8 of us shared the same unlocked bathroom eg bath, shower and loo! When I left home I was in share houses again always shared my bedroom, not with partners. And I did on-call work so very scatty hours, intense work so little opportunity for routine.

    Now I finally have a secure home and income, that alone is routine for me … my constant nomadic lifestyle saw me seesawing with those two factors. I am totally loving my routine now but have often had ‘lists’ … nothing pedantic, meaning what didn’t happen today went to the top of my list for tomorrow. Gives me goals but with plenty of room for flexibility. With life rotating around work and family duties for years I had to lock in my retreats and as of this year I will lock in regular little excursions. We need to keep a balance with work and play ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Unfortunately what starts as a hobby for me soon becomes an item on a list, so even my relaxing becomes regimented.

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      1. ouch that loses the point altogether … you need to factor in ‘quiet’ time, with nothing planned … then if you need a walk, a read, a nap, meet a friend for a cuppa. Learn to keep it loose ๐Ÿ™‚

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  3. Being retired, each day has the same basic routine, and now we have the dog, she’s part of it.
    The only thing that varies is the time we do things, the weather, and what we eat. I am emphatic about not having set meals on set days.
    Some people I have worked with cannot function without routine, be it the colour socks they wear on certain days or the use of a particular pen in the office. Hubby says I’m a compulsive counter and it’s nothing to do with my jobs with money or as a number cruncher. I never thought about it until he said that, and now find myself counting my steps or my breathing when I’m stressed.
    I do have a habit of straightening pictures on walls, cushions, or place mats.

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    1. I’m terrible with teaspoons. I have to use a certain one at work, nearly had a meltdown one day when it was missing. The boss went out and got me my own ๐Ÿ™„

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  4. Do you find this especially distressing? I know that OCD compulsions are very distressing. I’ve never been diagnosed with it nor have I ever pursued it, but I think have mild OCD, but mainly only the obsessions, not compulsions. I get intrusive thoughts which are often obscene, violent, or blasphemous. I don’t enjoy them in the least and there’s no question of entertaining them. The more I try to get rid of them the more they bother me. I wrote a post on my blog about this a while ago but I’m too embarrassed to look for it.

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      1. I just thought I’d put it out there to get it off my chest. It’s nice that people are responding and discussing though

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    1. I don’t really find it distressing, it’s more that I can’t stop. Take when we went on holiday, I packed my drawing, I made sure I’d be able to do the wordle, I counted the kms I walked each day on my app. At night after hubby was asleep I used coke bottles to do my weights. It’s really intrusive, I simple can’t settle until I’ve completed my list. Once I have I’m fine, but I do notice that my list is getting longer so …

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  5. I use to make lists every day what I had to accomplish especially at home but I went into meltdown mode when I didnโ€™t finish the list which greatly affected my sleeping patterns so I took a step back stopped writing lists and forgave myself if I took a weekend off at home
    OCD is a tricky beast

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    1. I have those meltdowns regularly. Iโ€™ve added two things to my daily list this week, and it was nearly impossible to complete it before

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